Things people who suffer with depression hate to hear:
1. Just be happy.
2. Your life isn’t that bad.
3. Everyone gets sad sometimes, you’ll get over it.
4. Stop being so sensitive.
5. Just go out and have fun.
6. You don’t look depressed.
7. You have so much to be thankful for.
8. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Depression: major depressive disorder is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act.
Here is the truth about depression from someone with depression:
1. Just be happy. Trust me, if it were that easy everyone with depression would choose to be happy.
2. Your life isn’t that bad. Having depression doesn’t automatically mean you have a terrible life. One of the hardest things about depression is knowing it’s not that bad but not being able to shut off everything in your mind telling you that it is.
3. Everyone gets sad sometimes, you’ll get over it. There is a huge difference between feeling depressed and being depressed. Everyone feels depressed when life gets hard. Depression is something that sticks around after hard times end.
4. Stop being sensitive. I am about as sensitive as they come. Ever since I was a little girl I would wear my feelings on my sleeves. Before I was on medication for my depression I would cry constantly. Sometimes to the point where I felt like I was going to pass out from exhaustion. It was such a terrible feeling that I wasn’t able to control or stop.
5. Just go out and have fun. When you are in your lowest points of depression it’s almost impossible to get yourself to go out and have fun. Things you enjoy aren’t enjoyable.
6. You don’t look depressed. THIS. I am extremely good at acting like I have my life together. So much so that I have actually had people tell me that I have a perfect life. I just smile and nod because inside I felt like inside I was drowning. Depression isn’t always something you can see in people unless you really pay attention.
7. You have so much to be thankful for. Again, you can have a great life and still suffer from depression.
8. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. I can’t speak for everyone, but I didn’t feel sorry for myself, I hated myself. I was so angry with myself for “allowing” myself to feel so hopeless.
All of this to say, if you know people who suffer with depression love them and support them. Encourage them to seek medical help.
If you have suicidal thoughts please reach out to someone. You are worthy of life.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline